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How can I get rid of same sex attractions and keep from watching porn?

I am a christian who is 20 years old struggling with same sex attraction and when i know nobodys watching i look at gay porn please help me and please if any of you are christians who read this please pray that God will deliver me from this horrible sin!!! thank you all
Nikki's comment account:

I am christian too but i feel if you are attracted to the same sex you should not fight it as you will not be truely happy for the rest of your life. If you feel that this is somthing you can't do i recommend seeking help from a professional.

DANNA:

I cant be truely happy being this way and i dont have the money to see professional help and plus i dont want my family knowing

Checkthefacts:

Most 20 year old males suffer with overstimulated hormones, so at least in that respect you can be mindful that you are not as different from anyone else as you may feel. Whether the issue is same sex or opposite sex, if it is outside of a marriage union, Christian ethics say, don't do it. But what to do about the feelings? This is something God and you have to work out. Pray like crazy. Find other interests to occupy your time. Do not think of yourself as an unforgiveable sinner, because low self esteem never solves any problem. Porn of any kind can be exceptionally addictive, especially to men, who by our nature, are very visual. Surround yourself with friends who do not judge. Also, understand that although some Christians think that homosexuals can be "cured", homosexuality is not a disease, it is a proclivity. Likes or dislikes cannot always be explained or changed. The best you may be able to do is to control, not your desires, but your actions. Find a non judgmental minister or priest (contrary to popular opinion, there are many) for counsel and prayer. We all have crosses, and frequently, dealing with our crosses in one area of our lives frequently make us stronger in other areas. Meanwhile, I will add you to my prayer list. God never gives up on you, don't you give up on you. Be blessed

Trina:

If you are serious....then I would actually think about going to a counselor (a non-religious one) and talk to them about it. They are bound by law to keep your "confession" under confidentiality.

Personally...I don't think God cares who you love as long as you love "him". Its really worth you living your life the way that makes you happy. If not...you've wasted your life and "God's" gift to you.

BILLYKID:

Ya got my vote!

Pattie:

be real to yourself. you know what it is you want. if it is meant to last the change will happen.

NUCKLEJAMMER:

First of all, realize that actions are preceded by thoughts. (Isaiah 55:6, 7; James 1:14, 15) Indeed, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer notes: “You cannot have a feeling (emotion) without first having experienced a thought.” So at the root of homosexual desires may be a pattern of distorted thinking regarding oneself, the opposite sex, love, and so forth. Before one can ‘make one’s mind over’ and change such thoughts, one must first identify them. (Romans 12:2) Doing so can give one valuable insight into just why one is drawn to members of the same sex. How can a person do so? One way is to pray, as did the psalmist: “Search through me, O God, and know my heart. Examine me, and know my disquieting thoughts, and see whether there is in me any painful way.” (Psalm 139:23, 24) It may also help to discuss one’s feelings with a discreet and mature Christian. As Proverbs 27:17 puts it, ‘iron sharpens iron.’
If a male has had a rejecting father or an abusive one, he may find that his attraction to the same sex is little more than a futile attempt to fill a need for fatherly love. If a person takes inventory of the specific traits in which he feels deficient, he may discover to his surprise that these are the very traits that he finds attractive in other men.
Admittedly, though, the causes of homosexuality are complex, and many cases defy simple explanation. Regardless of what has caused faulty thinking, however, there is much one can do to correct it.
The best way is to use God’s Word. Take, for example, a young man who finds himself attracted to men who display the masculine qualities he feels he lacks. Or a young woman who is fearful of the opposite sex. One way that both can develop a healthier view of masculinity is to study the example of Jesus. (1 Peter 2:21) He was a perfect model of masculine power balanced by gentleness. (Matthew 19:14; John 19:5) Meditating on Bible texts that deal with such subjects as God’s view of sex, love, and same-se

Timkat2:

If you feel you must include prayer in all your actions, pray that you find a good non religious therapist to help.

Jay:

well your curious that's all it human nature of course, don't worry about it, if it's that much of a problem go see a counselor.

Jay:

well there are free counselors...somewhere I don't know where but they are free.

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